Holiday Survival 2014

This post asks, “How do we get through those times when family encounters make us gnash our teeth or cause us untold suffering?” Numerous solutions are suggested and summarized. “Lets focus on ourselves as agents of change.” The Saying What Matters blog hones our skills for effective communication and comes from my wife Francis’ experience as an educator, researcher and counselor. Some of you may recall how this post builds from her Christmas 2013 post Holiday Survival 101. In this endeavor, may each of us work towards a more nourishing and peaceful world throughout the coming New Year and beyond.

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Saying What Matters

The holiday season is upon us. Many of us will throw wide our doors or travel miles to be with family. But, let’s be honest – these times can be joy-filled, trying and overwhelmingly painful – all within the space of one conversation.

Ah, family. Like it or not, these people had a role in forming us. There are days when we all wish we could have landed on this earth fully formed as the adult we present to the world today but that is a playful fantasy at best and a delusional problem at worst.

How do we get through those times when family encounters make us gnash our teeth or cause us untold suffering?

Let’s focus on ourselves as agents of change. The truth is, we have no power over how anyone else acts so we might as well be realistic. And there is always the outside possibility…

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5 thoughts on “Holiday Survival 2014

  1. Wow – this is very touching – Special wishes for a Christmas, that brighten you destiny
    May the moon of the Christmas season spread the christmas cheers
    Have a Merry Christmas with full of cheer and Happiness! unique and colorful Christmas wishes for you peoples!

  2. Thank you for sharing this Bruce, it is so true, I been thinking about that today a lot. We must embrace our families with love no matter how they have treat us. I love that part where it says they shape our life, so true.

    Happy Holidays, may you and your wife have joy, happiness, peace and joy not only on the holidays but all year round!

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