The Trials and Tribulations of Ineffective Listening

 

 

My wife Francis, the novelist, also has a 2nd blog related to communication skills and counseling. She calls herself the “Saying what Matters Lady” and this is what she says…
“We humans have a critical need to talk and to be heard, and yet it is an area we rarely think of in terms of self-improvement. This blog is to provide snippets of ideas on how each one of us can become a better communicator. Being able to say what matters and having another person hear and understand is an incredibly powerful experience. I would say it is the single greatest gift one can have in terms of building a relationship…”

Head on over for her introduction here – or go directly to The Trials and Tribulations of Ineffective Listening. Maybe you’ll find an insight or two. And the photos are worth a look in themselves.

Saying What Matters - Ineffective Listening Post by Bruce Witzel & Franics Guenette

Saying What Matters

In today’s post, as promised, we’ll take a look at a few ineffective listening scenarios.

Psuedo-listening

This type of listening imitates real listening but obviously misses the mark.

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As a busy mom in days gone by, I remember doing this type of listening. The kids talked and I went, “Uha, oh ya, uha . . .” Soon enough they caught on and told me how much they hated it when I said uha because they knew I wasn’t really listening. I’m sorry to say, right on the money, my dears. Oh, to be able to go back and do it all again.

Stage-hogging

This happens when we attempt to turn a conversation back to ourselves – usually accomplished through multiple interruptions. Oh boy, who doesn’t hate being in a conversation with someone who acts the stage hog?

Remember back to the last time you were in a regular everyday conversation…

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